About dabate

Today's dabate club is the one that made me rethink for a long time.
The topic is : will arranged marridge make more successful marridges?

I got "Yes". I wish another choice and another topic. I disagree with it 100%. Since the class should move on, I just told my teamates especially myself: the more the challenge, the more the interest. Having learnt from my experience that if I gave up, I would no doubt end up with failure, I tried my best to defense. Thanks to my last 3-day experience of the 21st century lenovo cup national speaking competition, I gained a much better performance in the class. On my first thought this dabate was obviously onesided advantage but I definitely turned the whole thing.

When I posed my speech, I mentioned that it would save not only time but also money if two parties used arranged marriage. There was a boy with the objective opinion who promtly said if we wanted to save money, we could just not to take care of the old and let them die.
At those words, I was just jumping up and slashed him but my parter held me, said" calm down." I guessed she sensed my feeling. I also felt my hands were shaking and so did my voice. I said, " I am sorry but I see your words meaningless. I just took away the things, but you took away the lives!" I had thousands of words to blame his idea but I was so angery together with many mixed feelings that I did not want to say a word. And I wish I neither talked with him nor met him.

The whole class is over but my thought goes far beyond.
How could such a young guy say the cold words as an example? To a large extent, it is the reflection of his minds. I feel very sorry indeed. His words are so harsh that I do still feel uncomfortable.

Also I remember my Chinese debate. The team players' nature behaviour after the competition gave me a lesson. They preferred to critisise on one person instead of shouldering the result together. They referred to a scapegoat to let them feel better. Plus I did not see any evidence about any poor performance. And there were a lot of cooperative efforts and happy hours behind the live stage that I treasured a lot but they usually neglected. I know, from that time on, failure begins from the inside seperation. That is the problem from the team itself that beats the them, not the opponents. They lose the meaning of debate-teamworkship. Hopefully next time when I come across the similar situation, I would meet people with splendid characteristics- tolerent, knowledgable.